I miss "us" -- how we used to be. Young. Laughing. Blissfully unaware of tomorrow.
I miss how cold wind used to feel "brisk" and "crisp" -now it feels just cold, and bone deep.
I miss the broken hearts and the long long phonecalls into the night. The bittersweet.
But then again I look back on yesterday through glasses tinted.
Today is more vibrant than yesterday. And I am well practiced at ignoring tomorrow.
I can wear a scarf to fight the aching cold -besides, warming up in bed with my wife is very nice.
A heart that beats a thousand times with love, strong and pure -- is of more worth than a thousand bleeding hearts that broke.
Today I face my future with steady feet on solid ground. With nothing to miss, not even memories
Showing posts with label Intimacy. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Intimacy. Show all posts
Tuesday, January 4, 2011
Wednesday, May 5, 2010
Being Beautiful
it never took much to be beautiful.
It takes a smile and some effort to comb your hair and scrub your cheeks. but most of all, it takes love.
Smile at people. Hug them. Listen and let them speak for hours, without saying a word. Be confident in your own happiness and share it with others. Encourage others to be ok with being happy. Look people in the eyes and make sure to look for the warmth in their eyes.
Touch people. Touch their shoulder while they are talking to you. Get in close and smell them - even if they smell bad, purify them in your mind and make them smell more beautiful than roses.
Love them deeply - even if it will rock their boat because they have never been loved deeply before. Without any desire of romance, regardless of gender, just purely and in an agape fashion, connect and Love Deep....
Let each individual that you meet know that they are sincerely valued by you, important to you, and most of all treasured by your God.
Control your emotion. Control your connection. Be a leader, and teach people how to handle a true relationship.
In English, our word "love" is limited - so for most of us, we reserve it for our immediate families and our romantic partners.
I tell my friends (men and women) that I miss them and I love them. They know the difference between that love and the love that I share with my wife, my siblings, and my parents....
But they know that it is Love.
Loving others makes you beautiful and attractive - and in the process you will be doing some good.
It takes a smile and some effort to comb your hair and scrub your cheeks. but most of all, it takes love.
Smile at people. Hug them. Listen and let them speak for hours, without saying a word. Be confident in your own happiness and share it with others. Encourage others to be ok with being happy. Look people in the eyes and make sure to look for the warmth in their eyes.
Touch people. Touch their shoulder while they are talking to you. Get in close and smell them - even if they smell bad, purify them in your mind and make them smell more beautiful than roses.
Love them deeply - even if it will rock their boat because they have never been loved deeply before. Without any desire of romance, regardless of gender, just purely and in an agape fashion, connect and Love Deep....
Let each individual that you meet know that they are sincerely valued by you, important to you, and most of all treasured by your God.
Control your emotion. Control your connection. Be a leader, and teach people how to handle a true relationship.
In English, our word "love" is limited - so for most of us, we reserve it for our immediate families and our romantic partners.
I tell my friends (men and women) that I miss them and I love them. They know the difference between that love and the love that I share with my wife, my siblings, and my parents....
But they know that it is Love.
Loving others makes you beautiful and attractive - and in the process you will be doing some good.
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Same Sex Unions, ooof
I am upset that the debate on same sex marriage even exists! Marriage should be an institution left to the church - not government! The government should never have provided unfair advantage for married couples versus others in the first place. Since we live in a country with a strong culture of "fairness" and "equality" - we have a mandate to provide equal opportunities, services and advantage to other union types. By allowing the unequal treatment of people to persist we risk too much - Constitutional integrity is at risk. By allowing government to define "marriage" we have opened the door to something that we can never shut again. oof!
Sunday, August 17, 2008
Saying Goodnight
something as simple as saying goodnight... i never realized how powerful and emotionally important it is to have someone say goodnight. It is a recognition of another's importance.
I just realized how many of my friends no longer have a person telling them goodnight. It is as if that benediction is reserved for family and lovers.and pets.. but it shouldn't be... should it?
I always make it a point to text someone goodnight... and always have 2-3 people that I say good night to... likewise I recieve about the same amount...
when was the last time that you said good night to someone? when was the last time it was said to you? It is a powerful form of "I love you" that i think we take for granted or forget about.
I encourage you to reach out to a friend and text him/her a good night. Get in the habit of calling someone and telling them goodnight. Drive home the point that another individual in your life has importance to you.
It will be reciprocated... trust me, it is addictive.
Other powerful messages:
Good morning.
I miss you.
Anyway, the other night I went out to dinner and then bowling with a friend. On the way home, we were texting back and forth about how much fun we had. We then said good night via text. Immediately after that my wife called me (she was in San Antonio) to tell me good night, then my mom... weird... but it got me thinking about it. Just now, in bed my wife leaned over and said good night and I was inspired to write this...
I hope you are well, whereever you are and I hope you are not feeling alone.
(no I am not going to end this with a cheesy good nite)
I just realized how many of my friends no longer have a person telling them goodnight. It is as if that benediction is reserved for family and lovers.and pets.. but it shouldn't be... should it?
I always make it a point to text someone goodnight... and always have 2-3 people that I say good night to... likewise I recieve about the same amount...
when was the last time that you said good night to someone? when was the last time it was said to you? It is a powerful form of "I love you" that i think we take for granted or forget about.
I encourage you to reach out to a friend and text him/her a good night. Get in the habit of calling someone and telling them goodnight. Drive home the point that another individual in your life has importance to you.
It will be reciprocated... trust me, it is addictive.
Other powerful messages:
Good morning.
I miss you.
Anyway, the other night I went out to dinner and then bowling with a friend. On the way home, we were texting back and forth about how much fun we had. We then said good night via text. Immediately after that my wife called me (she was in San Antonio) to tell me good night, then my mom... weird... but it got me thinking about it. Just now, in bed my wife leaned over and said good night and I was inspired to write this...
I hope you are well, whereever you are and I hope you are not feeling alone.
(no I am not going to end this with a cheesy good nite)
Thursday, December 27, 2007
New Year
No one is perfect. We all have fear, we all have pride. We all make mistakes. I have lied, cheated, and hurt many people. Many people have lied, cheated, and hurt me.
Life happens. We choose to feel hurt and angry. And we choose to feel joy and hope.
We all want to be better people, honorable, kind, just, good. In essence, most people want to be righteous. But in the light of our inadequacies, our failures, and over all let downs, we loose hope. Some people cry. Some get angry. Others run.
You are people who I have come to call my friend. Not because of your perfections, nor because of your imperfections, but rather because you hope for a good future - for yourselves and your children.
You try to understand things like faith. Faith in things greater than your self. Faith in the virtues and essences that drive your soul. Faith in your family, community, your people.
You believe in the connection that comes from your folk. Your community creates a sense of harmony, security, and joy. You have witnessed failure, heartbreak, dishonor, betrayal, and still you have poured yourselves into your community. Forgiving the faults of others, bridging peace, and learning to keep the flames of your small community alive.
Most of all you try to have a definition of Family, that transcends the ties of blood - into something more real: trust, loyalty, and love. You understand that real family is built by relationship. You implicitly realize that an unknowable love, exists in the tether of friendship, romance, and long endured time.
Family forgives. Family adapts. Family endures.
Life happens. It is how we deal with the choices before us, that determines the memories of our hearts, the songs of our lives, and the stories of our souls.
If any God exists, yours or mine, then let Him be honored by our ability to stay true to our beliefs... even when we are injured the most - especially when we are afraid, angry, and confused.
God, wants truth and relationship. You know this. The relationship with God is easy to mimic when we have no need of His wisdom and grace. But when times send us into places that are dark, angry, or sorrowful, it is our trust in His truth that truly defines our song.
I hope you are facing the New Year with hearts ready for new adventures, burdens, and Joy. I wish you peace and hope you honor your responsibilities to your community, to your children, to your God, and most of all to each other.
Always your friend, and always ready to listen,
Sidhartha
27 Dec 2007
Life happens. We choose to feel hurt and angry. And we choose to feel joy and hope.
We all want to be better people, honorable, kind, just, good. In essence, most people want to be righteous. But in the light of our inadequacies, our failures, and over all let downs, we loose hope. Some people cry. Some get angry. Others run.
You are people who I have come to call my friend. Not because of your perfections, nor because of your imperfections, but rather because you hope for a good future - for yourselves and your children.
You try to understand things like faith. Faith in things greater than your self. Faith in the virtues and essences that drive your soul. Faith in your family, community, your people.
You believe in the connection that comes from your folk. Your community creates a sense of harmony, security, and joy. You have witnessed failure, heartbreak, dishonor, betrayal, and still you have poured yourselves into your community. Forgiving the faults of others, bridging peace, and learning to keep the flames of your small community alive.
Most of all you try to have a definition of Family, that transcends the ties of blood - into something more real: trust, loyalty, and love. You understand that real family is built by relationship. You implicitly realize that an unknowable love, exists in the tether of friendship, romance, and long endured time.
Family forgives. Family adapts. Family endures.
Life happens. It is how we deal with the choices before us, that determines the memories of our hearts, the songs of our lives, and the stories of our souls.
If any God exists, yours or mine, then let Him be honored by our ability to stay true to our beliefs... even when we are injured the most - especially when we are afraid, angry, and confused.
God, wants truth and relationship. You know this. The relationship with God is easy to mimic when we have no need of His wisdom and grace. But when times send us into places that are dark, angry, or sorrowful, it is our trust in His truth that truly defines our song.
I hope you are facing the New Year with hearts ready for new adventures, burdens, and Joy. I wish you peace and hope you honor your responsibilities to your community, to your children, to your God, and most of all to each other.
Always your friend, and always ready to listen,
Sidhartha
27 Dec 2007
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